Tanya Younce, M.Ed., LPCC

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Not My Job

Not My Job Blog

These declarations are to remind us not be codependent in our relationships. This is not an act of selfishness. Rather, it’s an act of love to let others own their feelings, be responsible for themselves, and to keep healthy boundaries so that we don’t get sucked in and suffocate.

I can choose to do nice things for you, but…

  • It’s not my job to keep you from getting upset.
  • It’s not my job to pick up the mess you made.
  • It’s not my job to remind you to take care of yourself.
  • It’s not my job to read your mind.
  • It’s not my job to look the other way when you do something stupid.
  • It’s not my job to be in charge of everything.
  • It’s not my job to rescue you when you’re broke.
  • It’s not my job to apologize for something I’m not sorry about.
  • It’s not my job to make life easier for you.
  • It’s not my job to accommodate all of your plans.
  • It’s not my job to take on your stress.
  • It’s not my job to agree with everything you say.
  • It’s not my job to stay quiet when I want to scream.
  • It’s not my job to jump when you need something.
  • It’s not my job to put your needs first and my needs last.
  • It’s not my job to make all the arrangements.
  • It’s not my job to thank you for every little thing you do.
  • It’s not my job to be all things to all people.
  • It’s not my job to do everything perfectly.
  • It’s not my job to make excuses for you.
  • It’s not my job to always make peace with you.
  • It’s not my job to be generous when I feel depleted.  AND…
  • It’s not my job to comfort you when it’s me who needs to be comforted.

Amen.

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