Tanya Younce, M.Ed., LPCC

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Category Archives: intimacy

Healing Power of Connection

One of the best parts of being a counselor is developing a therapeutic relationship with each of my clients.  In our ever-growing technological culture, I see an almost ‘learned helplessness’ in knowing how to actually interact   genuinely face-to-face with family, friends, or even strangers.  We’ve cocooned ourselves and become so self-sufficient and have acquiesced to […]

An Open Letter to Men

Men,Be careful when you tell your girlfriends or wives that you feel like the luckiest guy on earth to have her in your life, because there will be an implied message to her that you will earn that honor.  You will likely put her on a pedestal (as you should) but not so high that […]

How and When To Ask for Change

Drawing Your Line in the Sand

“The most important distinction anyone can ever make in their life is between who they are as an individual and their connection with others.”    –Anne Linden A common issue that has been brought up in my therapy sessions with clients these past few weeks is the concept of building and maintaining appropriate boundaries in one’s […]

The Value of Fighting

Verbal “fighting” can actually be useful for a couple, to communicate their thoughts, needs, wants, and feelings.  It can also increase passion in the relationship by going through a heated debate then resolving it with great “make-up sex!”  But the most effective fights have to be packaged in such a way that the focus is […]

Do You Feel Like the Man in Your Relationship?

Right now, I know more women – both friends and clients – who are better educated, have a more stable job, look like cougars, and have more girlfriends and high self-esteem than do their husbands. Why is this?  Women have a (not so) secret desire to have a strong man take charge of more things, […]

Making the Ordinary Extraordinary – My Take On Fifty Shades

I fell victim to the curiosity of one of the most talked about book trilogies this past month – “Fifty Shades of Grey.”  From what I saw and read in the news, blogs, and various articles, these books were being touted as “mommy porn” but that they were also “spicing up marriages everywhere.”  So, being […]

Intimacy With A Piano

Me at age 16 I started playing the piano again this week.  My mother-in-law is graciously selling me hers, in order to make more room in her house, so in anticipation of it coming, I’ve been warming up by tinkering around on my electric keyboard. Aaaand it’s very clear that I’m hopelessly out of practice.  […]

Marriage Maintenance

There’s a trend that I’m seeing in my practice that is worthy of, if not in need of further exploration:  people becoming disenchanted with their marriages, feeling stuck, wanting out, but trapped by the guilt of hurting the spouse, disrupting the family unit for their children (if there are any), facing the financial uncertainty, dealing […]