Tanya Younce, M.Ed., LPCC

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Category Archives: communication skills

Mother-Daughter Battles: When Taking Care of Yourself is Judged as ‘Selfish’

This past July, my 15-year-old daughter sat on my bed and calmly told me she wanted to start living with her father full-time. It came as a complete shock to me and I immediately welled up with tears as I asked “What? Whyyyy?”  She explained that she’d rather live with him because of two main […]

An Open Letter to Men

Men,Be careful when you tell your girlfriends or wives that you feel like the luckiest guy on earth to have her in your life, because there will be an implied message to her that you will earn that honor.  You will likely put her on a pedestal (as you should) but not so high that […]

What You Bring Home From Work

What do you do every day at work?  Sell merchandise or ideas?  Analyze data?  Design things? Organize people, events or information?  Lead projects?  Teach new concepts to others?  Where is your head, for a majority of the day? Now think about how you bring that mindset home with you.  Those professional instincts, skills, and tendencies […]

Top 5 Books I Read in 2013

Well, 2013 is now behind us and in reflecting on how things went for New Leaf Counseling, I can say that it was a year of “settling” or I guess I could even say “marinating.”  My normal inclination is to continuously grow, grow, grow — but this year seemed to take on more of a […]

How and When To Ask for Change

Drawing Your Line in the Sand

“The most important distinction anyone can ever make in their life is between who they are as an individual and their connection with others.”    –Anne Linden A common issue that has been brought up in my therapy sessions with clients these past few weeks is the concept of building and maintaining appropriate boundaries in one’s […]

The Value of Fighting

Verbal “fighting” can actually be useful for a couple, to communicate their thoughts, needs, wants, and feelings.  It can also increase passion in the relationship by going through a heated debate then resolving it with great “make-up sex!”  But the most effective fights have to be packaged in such a way that the focus is […]

Do You Feel Like the Man in Your Relationship?

Right now, I know more women – both friends and clients – who are better educated, have a more stable job, look like cougars, and have more girlfriends and high self-esteem than do their husbands. Why is this?  Women have a (not so) secret desire to have a strong man take charge of more things, […]

Making the Ordinary Extraordinary – My Take On Fifty Shades

I fell victim to the curiosity of one of the most talked about book trilogies this past month – “Fifty Shades of Grey.”  From what I saw and read in the news, blogs, and various articles, these books were being touted as “mommy porn” but that they were also “spicing up marriages everywhere.”  So, being […]

Relationships as a Mosaic

“If both of you are the same, then one of you is unnecessary.”  –Wayne Dyer When I was about 9 years old, I used to think that English was the only language in the world, and that people who spoke other languages were just bilingual.  I couldn’t understand, when my parents invited a Venezuelan college […]