Tanya Younce, M.Ed., LPCC


Author Archives: Tanya Younce

Finding your Way Through Change

In a world full of constant change, there are millions of people who put their energies into avoiding, fearing and resisting it. “I hate change,” is a phrase I hear quite a bit in my sessions. But I think that if people had more knowledge about what to kick into gear when change was inevitable, […]

Not My Job

These declarations are to remind us not be codependent in our relationships. This is not an act of selfishness. Rather, it’s an act of love to let others own their feelings, be responsible for themselves, and to keep healthy boundaries so that we don’t get sucked in and suffocate. I can choose to do nice things for you, but… It’s […]

Stopping the Self-Help Madness

With all of the advice from self-help books, podcasts, social media, magazines, and workshops, it’s no wonder that we’ve become a culture of women who feel unfulfilled, overwhelmed, and highly self-critical. Are you bewildered by how anyone could keep up with all of the hacks that tell you how you’re supposed to look, love, and […]


Twice a year, I go away for the weekend to a nice hotel and have what I like to call my own little Personal Retreat. Last weekend, I stayed at La Quinta Hotel in Mason and had two a half days all to myself, which ended up being a very restful and insightful experience. So […]

Life as a Social Chameleon

Social chameleons are people who know how to quickly blend in to any other person or group by picking up on and then embodying their way of acting, speaking, and various other ways of, well…BEING. Like a beige-toned color, they can go with just about anything, unlike someone with a distinct color that can only […]

Rediscovering Your Dreams – Part III

Loving Sid Vicious I know. I left you waiting for the last part of the Rediscovering Your Dreams trilogy. It’s been months since I published the second part, and I could give you a lot of excuses for why this is late, but what happened was this. After figuring out my dreams and organizing all […]

Rediscovering Your Dreams – Part II

In the first part of this “Dream Trilogy,” I talked about how, as children, we allowed ourselves the freedom to openly use our imagination and create all kinds of worlds in which our minds and bodies were able to play. But somewhere in our development, the wide open space we had became more limited. As […]

Rediscovering Your Dreams – Part I

What did you play when you were a kid? What did you wish for, dream about, or see yourself having? As children, we have the innocence and lack of self consciousness to put no limit to our pretend lives. We might have put on various costumes to be superheroes, built entire neighborhoods with Legos, used […]

The 4 Key Components That Keep You REAL!

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.” ― e.e. Cummings I’m not exactly sure what year e.e. Cummings wrote this quote, but I do […]

How to Develop Your True Voice

Being a poor decision-maker or having difficulty being clear about your own needs, interests or goals usually comes from being raised without being allowed to speak what was on your mind or express yourself fully. Or, if you were allowed, it was somehow criticized, marginalized, or disregarded (“You don’t know what you’re talking about.”). Been […]